Vulnerability & Shame

Daring GreatlySo… I know what you are thinking. Who is this guy and why is he writing a post about vulnerability and shame?? Well, you know sometimes you hear about something, a new concept, a new theory, a new idea… a new way of thinking… and it just hits you; right smack between the eyes and won’t let you get away until you’ve given it some more thought?  The you ask yourself, how on earth has my thinking been so far off all these years! This new (insert thought here) should be common sense and I missed it! How have I missed this?! Well, that is what Brené Brown did for me when I heard her speak at the Global Leadership Summit in August of this year.  After hearing her talk I went and found her TED talks and some other videos of her and I put her books on my reading list.  Something about what she was saying really struck a chord with me.

Vulnerability… how do you define it? How is it that one person can be vulnerable with another? How does shame fit into the picture? Can I love somebody else completely without being vulnerable? Can I bear my soul to another and not be ashamed? Is bearing ones soul to another required to have a true connection with the other person? What is it that I am trying to hide? What am I afraid of? Failure? Rejection? Shame?

I’m still working through some of these questions and before I heard Brené Brown speak I hadn’t really thought of them before… at least not in this way. Watch the TED talk for yourself and be prepared to do some soul searching.

Never heard of TED before? TED (Technology, Entertainment, Design) is a global set of conferences owned by the private non-profit Sapling Foundation, under the slogan “ideas worth spreading”. In June 2011, TED Talks had received over 500 million views on, and on Tuesday November 13, 2012, TED Talks had been watched one billion times worldwide, reflecting the growing global audience.

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